1-What inspired you to write I Almost Divorced My Husband?
When the strike was over and I witnessed the devastating apologetic reaction from my husband Gerald, after he had done everything for a week and a half. I had an epiphany. I discovered that we have been blaming the wrong person. My husband didn’t believe any different than other men, women, mom’s, dad’s, grandma’s grandpa,s, in other words society at large. The idea that women should be responsible for everything in the house has been so imbedded in our culture that I knew it was going to be a tough nut to crack. I knew that I was going to have to be the pioneer who did it.
The only way I was going to get this message out to society, was to write a book. That way I could get the word out into the world where society lives.
The real inspiration came from my clients who begged me daily to write a book.Then my daughter who sent me the book ‘How To Get Published’.
She wrote, “I love you mom. I have faith in you. One day, women all over the world will owe you their future.”
2-Have you always wanted to be a writer?
No- I have had absolutely no literary training. When I saw so many people I knew and loved go through divorces that didn’t have to happen, I knew that someone HAD to do something . I knew instinctively that that someone had to be me. It seemed I was the only one brazen enough to confront the elephant in the living room.
I am not a writer who published a book.
I had a message that had to get out. So I knew I had to do whatever it took to learn how to write a book. To me this message has got to become a movement. We have to stop the divorce rate from skyrocketing. For our children's sakes and for our grandchildren's sakes.
3-What are your current projects?
A man who bought my book at Costco sent me an email the next day full of praise for my book. He told me how it had helped him in so many ways.
He said, “Do you think when you write your next book you can devote two chapters to men, telling us what we can do?”
My acquisition editor had different ideas. She said, “Do you think you can write the whole book to men as if they were sitting in front of you?”
Besides working full time in my salon I am now mid-way through the ‘Man’ book.
4-What is the best advice you can give your readers?
It would be, ‘first seek to understand-then to be understood.
This is not only successful with householder work but any other dispute you have in your marriage.
For the first 12 years of my marriage, I handled everything the wrong way. I never would have had to go on strike had I handled everything differently. First I let him off the hook with housework, and then I blamed him for not doing anything. I was always full of self pity , anger and worse of all- hidden resentments, which is by far the most dangerous. All of these feelings that are not dealt with early on can simmer under the surface until they finally erupt often leading to divorce.
5 -What is your favorite part of the book, I Almost Divorced My Husband?
The three main reasons the ‘me generation’ has adopted as an excuse for getting a divorce. I go into great detail to de-bunk all of them.
6-What is your favorite hobby besides writing?
I have been consumed with the idea of convincing everyone that (barring abuse) most marriages can be saved. My research seems to be my only hobby/obsession. I live it, I sleep it, I do it on vacation, I search for it in the newspaper, on TV, and when My husband asks me why I didn’t hear him we both chuckle as I say, “Shush, I’m working.” I can’t seem to even meet anyone new without syphoning out at least a little bit of research. No one is safe.
7-What is your favorite food?
Fresh garden tomatoes.
Thank you, Sherri, for sharing your answers today!!
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